My usual go-to question when asking someone for advice for a specific topic is: “What are the top 3 things that brought 80% of the results?” But I got to admit, it’s a question looking for quick hacks. I was asking the wrong question all along. I didn't always know what worked and what led to my success. But I definitely knew what didn’t work. So a better question to ask is to ask about what not to do. • “What is something people spend too much time on that I should skip entirely?” • What’s the top 3 mistakes you made that you don’t wish on someone else in similar shoes? • What did you focus on back then that you now wished otherwise? • What would your current self tell your past self on what not to do? The via negativa approach to seeking advice.