Day 448 - Why not me? - https://golifelog.com/posts/why-not-me-1648082073732
The real reason I’m building my own business is that I’m tired of helping someone else build their dream.
“Why not me?” I asked myself.
If I’m going to give so much of myself into my work—and it’s good work I do—then might as well let myself be the main beneficiary of that effort.
In fact, “Why not me?” should be a default way of being. I’m realising it’s a powerful way to prompt thinking and promote action.
“Why not me?” gets me out of my own comfort zone.
“Why not me?” makes me think I can achieve what others did too.
“Why not me?” shows me where I’m lacking in imagination.
“Why not me?” prevents me from talking myself out of trying.
“Why not me?” invites social comparison, yes. They say “Comparison is the thief of joy”. It’s true. If you just compare and don’t do nothing, envy and jealousy will embitter your heart. It’s also true if you compare on the big things in life (that you have no control over) than the small things (that you can actually act on).
But here’s the nuance – social comparison can be a force for change, if you know how to use it as bushmen use small bush fires to fight the larger forest fire.
Just compare the small things and actually go do it.
It’s friendly competition.
It’s mutually empowering rivalry.
It’s like Edison versus Tesla. It’s Einstein versus Hilbert. It’s Wright versus Langley.
I dare say, “Why not me?” fulfilled more dreams than “I can do it”.
“Why not me?” I asked myself.
If I’m going to give so much of myself into my work—and it’s good work I do—then might as well let myself be the main beneficiary of that effort.
In fact, “Why not me?” should be a default way of being. I’m realising it’s a powerful way to prompt thinking and promote action.
“Why not me?” gets me out of my own comfort zone.
“Why not me?” makes me think I can achieve what others did too.
“Why not me?” shows me where I’m lacking in imagination.
“Why not me?” prevents me from talking myself out of trying.
“Why not me?” invites social comparison, yes. They say “Comparison is the thief of joy”. It’s true. If you just compare and don’t do nothing, envy and jealousy will embitter your heart. It’s also true if you compare on the big things in life (that you have no control over) than the small things (that you can actually act on).
But here’s the nuance – social comparison can be a force for change, if you know how to use it as bushmen use small bush fires to fight the larger forest fire.
Just compare the small things and actually go do it.
It’s friendly competition.
It’s mutually empowering rivalry.
It’s like Edison versus Tesla. It’s Einstein versus Hilbert. It’s Wright versus Langley.
I dare say, “Why not me?” fulfilled more dreams than “I can do it”.